As a Christmas baby, I’ve always adored the holiday season. Growing up, it was the best time of year for me—filled with magic, joy, and celebration. But as a single mother, the magic of Christmas often came with its challenges. Looking back, I remember the overwhelming pressure to create the “perfect” holiday for my daughters.
It wasn’t just about the tree or decorations; it was the presents, the clothes, the shoes—all the things I felt I had to provide to make their Christmas special. The desire to see their faces light up on Christmas morning was both a joy and a weight on my shoulders.
Back then, I noticed a trend: people were opening bank accounts with barely any money just to shop. They were knowingly bouncing checks to buy their kids everything on their wish lists, going into debt for one day of celebration.
I can admit, the temptation crossed my mind. Many nights, I sat there, contemplating if this was something I should do just to ensure my daughters had a tree overflowing with gifts. Like every mother, I wanted to give them a Christmas to remember.
One night, I shared these thoughts with my older sister. I’ll never forget her advice:
“You’ll damage yourself for one day—it’s not worth it. Give them your best, and the family will always step in to help with gifts.”
Her words stuck with me, and I decided against it. That year, I focused on giving my daughters what I could afford and trusting that it would be enough. And you know what? It was. We had a beautiful Christmas.
I started to realize that kids don’t need piles of gifts to feel loved. A few special items, especially the ones they truly wanted, made their day magical. It wasn’t about the quantity but the quality of the experience—of love, laughter, and togetherness.
The most valuable lesson I learned during those years was that the true essence of Christmas isn’t in the material things. Yes, kids love gifts, and they should have some under the tree, but it’s so important not to feel pressured to put yourself in harm’s way—financially, legally, or otherwise—to provide what you think is “enough.”
The reason for the season is far greater than presents. It’s about celebrating Jesus, embracing love, fostering peace in our hearts and minds, and spreading joy to those around us.
To every mother or parent out there feeling the weight of the holiday season, know this: your love, your presence, and the memories you create with your family will far outlast any gift under the tree. Celebrate the moments, big and small, and remember the true meaning of Christmas.
Love, peace, and joy to you all this season.